valentine’s day is a tempestuous holiday. it makes being single feel more alone. but on the other hand, puts horribly unnecessary burdens on married couples to perform extraordinary magical love-giving, and in the end, things can get blown out of proportion and expectations are burned to cinders (or at least that has been some of our experiences). it seems like we fight more before and during, and when we–i try to dissipate expectation, some still lingers. #notlookingatmyself #blameless
my wizened, and yet still youthful-looking mother though, started a tradition several years ago. we have a nice dinner, drink bubbly, and on each plate is a gift bag. each of us before dinner have to write notes to everyone about why we are thankful for them. my mother and grandmother will also put in the receiver’s bag a few extra tidbits: candy, socks, a gift card, etc. it is more of a “let’s celebrate our friendship/relationship and life together day.”
the tradition still continues even though hundreds of miles have separated us for over 2 1/2 years. we try to send our notes for the family before their special dinner and they send us a love box in return (the nebraska love box is not contingent on our note sending). this year, instead of cooking the traditional love meal of knefla, i thought it would be unique to separate the day and give both of us the opportunity to plan. i took the morning and matt took the evening. a trip to a new coffee shop san francisco coffee and a 2 hour park exploration ensued saturday morning at orme and piedmont park (we found a separate entrance that attached to a neighborhood so you don’t have to go through the official entrance and pay #locals). that evening matt took me out for cheap chinese based on raving crab ragoon yelp reviews. we finished the night with a bottle of presecco and matt’s virgin viewing of some like it hot. we were too full for matt’s dessert plans that were hidden in the fridge.
here are some pictures from the park outings. i think matt has found his niche: camera set to automatic with manual focus. he is really getting quite good. watch out, liebovitz.